I mean, will someone PLEASE tell me what this means!

Alright, so some things lately have interested me and confused me a lot.....

1. "You need to make yourself more available"

Let's just be honest here... maybe every other girl my age would be perfectly fine with this statment being said to her multiple times, and maybe I am just the odd one, because lets face it... I usually am the person to break all the "Normal" rules of how things are. Lets run through the reasons why this put a bit of a spur in my saddle:

1. The context of this questsion might just not help the actual line out much at all. It always comes when I am speaking of a person of the opposite sex in ANY context. . . and then BAM! It happens. The end all be all. The statement hits the person talking to me like the best apiphany they ever had. The answer to all my problems. Badda Bing Badda Boom. "Darby needs to catch that guy." Ergo Darby hears " You need to make yourself more available for guys."
   For real! Someone tell me what that is suppose to mean? Are they implying I should just throw myself on guys?? I'm sure they aren't and mean it in the best way possbile. . . but it bugs me for a few reasons.... Do they not think that I am doing fine in my singleness? Yes, I would love to not be so single, but at the time, that's not the top of my list to solve. After all the crap I went through in my last relationship, I am in no rush to have the possiblity of getting my heart torn apart again. Plus, I desperately desire to be persuded. To be Wanted. Saught after. And I realize that only happens in the movies or my dreams... but I also do not feel like it is a girls place to pursue a guy. If a guy finds me attractive or wants to see if there is something more in a friendship, I think that he should grow some and do that. Be a man. I'm tired of dating non-mans boys. I do not want to date someone who doens't have the gonads to pursue me. Dumb. So I will just wait. I will wait and have fun with friends, love life, and live the life I should. :)

k. cool.