I want to know all those great lessons you've learned through the years about life, love, friendships, hardships, cooking, cleaning, crying, laughing....
This may sound random or quirky, but think about all those things you've learned in your life, all the things that your grandma use to tell you off hand that you hold so dearly to your heart now... all those beautiful revelations about life that you realized in the middle of heartache or at the happiest moment in your life.
I ask this of you not to solely to be selfish so I can take it in and learn from all you have to say, but to ask you to share those things... don't keep them to yourself, no matter how precious they are.
I ask this of you because I recently found a box of my Grammie's recipes. Now, this may not seem like a big deal, but when you think that some of those recipes were lost forever, when you think that you may never taste the richness of her Real Mayonnaise Chocolate Cake or the kick of her special Picante Sauce..... when you think all of that is gone because Grammie isn't Grammie anymore... that box of recipes mean more than words can express. When i found this box and discovered what was in it, I broke down. I sobbed my eyes out.
I cried because I just wanted one more day in the kitchen with her, one more day of her sitting and telling me stories of things she use to do, one more day of us digging for worms to go fishing with.... just one more day to listen. I want that one day because all the days I had with her I was too young to realize the harsh reality that those days wouldn't last forever. I can never go back and retrieve those life lessons that she tried to tell me when I wasn't listening like I would listen now.
I not only ask you to share with me because I have realized the fleeting flash that is this life, but because I know you've lived through things I am going through, have been through, or will face before Jesus wants me Home. I want to hear your stories of how it felt to fall in love, when you realized you may just be dating the guy you will be with forever, how it felt to make your best friends and the ways you dealt with simply being a woman with other women, how you made those tough decisions in life, how you felt when your best friend moved away........ tips on how to keep a relationship going strong, any hints on figuring out how to stay organized and out of debt.....
So I ask you, women, to share things with me that are special to you, things that others taught you or you learned yourself. I ask you because I want to live a life that is full and abundant, that comes from having open ears to those people in my life right now.
I hate knowing that people like Debbie Adcock and Amanda Miller can no longer write me notes of encouragement, or that I can't cook breakfast with my Grammie anymore... but I am so blessed that I have people like you that I can still learn from and cherish.
((( So in the comment box, tell me your secret to life.... or if you don't feel comfortable doing that... write me an email : darbybarksdale@yahoo.com ))))
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Philomena Buxton
ReplyDeleteshe told me..."Life is short...love it cause i love you".....AND "Just because he was not the right one...it doesn't mean every other one is going to be mean like he was."
Meagan B
ReplyDeleteI learned that if you put vasoline on the bird feeder that the squirrels can't climb up there and eat all the bird seed. They just slide right off. lol Great times with my Granny...
Meagan B
ReplyDeleteI also know that if you will soak bread in some milk and then mix it in with your hamburger meat that it makes the patties stay together better and the meat go farther
My secret, hummm, you realize there are some things in life that you cannot change so you adjust and hope next time for a change.
ReplyDeleteAccept yourself for who you are, not what you "think"you want to be....
Darby, I wish I could tell you all the things that I have learned over the years that have made my life happier and helped me survive, especially when I think I am sinking. You must know that you are the most amazing person God ever made. You love harder, live for the best and your hears can fall from top to bottom so fast . When you find someone to love, be sure that you don't compromise! You have a certain standard and that standard is your's , so claim it and don't back down. There is alot of give and take in any relationship, but that's not COMPROMISE. No one will ever love like you do and so what you have to do is be able to express how you need to be loved and expect to get that in return. Then you have to be able to love like that person needs to be loved. If those 2 are different, then you need to find how much you can give and how much he can give and let GOd find the middle. Always remember that you can't change someone else, they must want to change and be able to change. Somethings just can't be changed. And in friendships, you have to let everyone be who they are and don't make all friends agree with you always. Remember you can't buy friends or their thoughts. You have so much love for the people you love and it shows all over you. byAnd those people are the luckiest people because they are loved completely by you. Just know that everyone doesn't love the same way in friendships. That's SO hard to learn and not let it hurt your feelings. BUT, to make a friendship work, everyone has to contribute to the friendship. It can't be one sided or it'sn not a friendship. I love you so much
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