So today I was confronted by two different people as to why I still had pictures of Daniel and I on my facebook. To me, I just thought it was so harsh to have to delete something that was part of my life for over a year... if you know me, I have a special place in my heart for photos, and I rarely can disgard even the worse picture. But I knew at some point I probably would have to face it. I mean, let's be honest, Daniel already has, he "untagged" himself from ever single picture with me the week after he "de-friended" me. So, why has it taken me 6 months?
I have no answer other than, it was hard. I didn't think it needed to be done. I felt he was harsh and rash when he "de-friended" me and all the other things he did therefore I did not want to be like that, and deleting photos of us was being harsh. I cannot erase those memories even if I delete them off of my facebook, I cannot, nor can he, delete the fact that we were involved in a relationship that lasted for over a year. So that's why I didn't.
I saw it as me trying to deny the fact that we were in a relationship, until today. I did it.
I deleted the pictures of us.
I have been over him and movin on for the past couple of months.... and now... I really am.
I am proud of myself.
I am stronger, braver, better than I was when I was with Daniel and I am so happy.
Although I can never erase the memories I have of us, some good, some not so good, I can erase him from the "important" part of me. I don't want to be harsh or rash or sound like an angry ex-girlfriend, but Daniel doesn't deserve for me to think well of him, he doesn't deserve for me to waste a second's thought on this, but I do. Maybe because I am better than that, honestly, I feel as though I am better than he is. He can't even look me in the eye, much less think well of me. Or maybe he does and is afraid to show it because he knows what he is missing in his life, not me as his girlfriend, but me, Darby Barksdale a strong woman in Christ, as his friend.
I am happy of what I did today. Happy that I realized that they are "just pictures" and that that part of my life is done. And you know what, it is okay! Because I have a God that has promised me many things in life, who loves me infinitely more than Daniel ever fakely did, who will provide for me someone (( hopefully )) that is perfect for the woman God is making me into. I am thankful for the heartache and the guard I have now due to the pain from then. I have a joy and peace in my heart that supercedes any tear I may cry over the memories that still cross my mind. I have friends that are struggling in the "single" life just as I am, I have friends that have been in my shoes before, and again, I have a Jesus who loves me. :)
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Babe, I am so proud of you. For the YOU that you are becoming and the stronger woman that God is molding and encouraging. You are stronger and a much better person than Daniel will ever pray of being, and I know that it was a big step for you to do what you do. Memories will live with you forever, and with time, the ones that you learn from are the ones God will let you remember. God is preparing that WONDERFUL man for you , be patient! It will happen when you are ready and he is too. I love you mother
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